Forgetting to Say Hello

Daily conversations can at times have unfavorable ending. When two people first meet or run into each other for the day, the first thing they usually say to each other is something synonymous with the word hello. But sometimes, that doesn’t always happen. One or the other may forget to say hello in the excitement of seeing the person that they are meeting (or perhaps talking to on the phone). This post seeks to address this issue and share some practical advise concerning how to deal with it.

The first thing that may come to mind to the person who is on the receiving end of a “hello-less” conversation is either to think about the lack of etiquette that this person has or respond in a fashion to make the person realize that they didn’t say hello–which may or may not we worded in a way that makes the person feel stupid). It would not be just if this post went on with out giving a solution that can prevent the problem from occurring.

The primary solution to the problem has to reside with the individual who speaks first. If this individual forgets to greet  on a regular basis, then they need to be aware of the problem and do their best to always make sure that their conversations begin with a greeting. They have to be conscious of the fact that they must go into conversations intending to greet the other person. This will prevent any unwanted escalations.

The secondary solution resides with the individual who is receiving the “hello-less” greeting. They may decide, sometimes as an automatic reaction, to reply by pointing out the fact that the speaker didn’t greet them. This is not necessarily wrong but may turn into something negative by how it is worded, the tone of voice, and the facial expression that is utilized.

If one chooses to point out to the speaker that a greeting was not given, the voice should be gentle when speaking. How about saying, in a nice friendly tone, “Hey, no hello today?” It’s not necessarily what is said, though that can be bad, but how it is said. One can take the same “Hey, no hello today,” and say it in a way that is meant to attack the individual who neglected to do so.

Next on the list is the facial expression. It is better to aim for a gentle facial expression rather than something that screams, “what are you doing?” The problem with facial expressions is that a lot of them are automatic. Why does that happen? Years of reacting a certain way–imitating what is done by parents, friends, and/or those one looks up to, usually confine one to a type of reaction. But that doesn’t mean that a change can’t happen.

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